Today’s start was no different than any other. When Christopher awoke, he beckoned, “daddy!” After changing his diaper, we began walking out of his room on a mission to get milk. On a table near the door, sits a picture of dad, daddy, mom Stacey and Christopher. As we approached the door of Christopher’s room, we said, “good morning, Stacey.” He knows her by name or by mom Stacey. Yet, today, he asked, “who’s that, daddy?” Incidentally, he asks this question quite frequently these days. In fact, on the way home from an errand today, he asked who the bicyclist was as if dad and daddy know everyone. Anyway, I told him that Stacey was his mommy. He replied emphatically, “my mommy!” Everything is his…
Hi Stacey,
We talk to Christopher about you all the time. We want to make sure he knows how much you love him. Wherever you are, we want you to know that we often think of you. We hope you are well, and trust that one day when you are ready we will hear from you.
Love, Mike, Michael, Christopher and Matteo
This is wonderful……brought a tear…….
lovely story. We feel very lucky that Angela is around right now and that Evan and Sophie are getting to know her.
Its so nice you want to have their moms involved in their lives. Reading between the lines a little, but it sounds like Christopher was quite proud of “my mommy”! So cute!
Anyway…(and feel free not to post this if you don’t feel comfortable)….have you thought about how you will handle things if one of the moms is involved in the kids’ lives and the other isn’t? I am just asking out of curiosity. Again…if its not something you are comfortable sharing, I completely understand!
My adoption was closed, so I have not knowledge of my birth-mom, so I am always curious about open adoption dynamics.
Hi Kim,
We are hopeful that both moms will be involved, whether by telephone, email or face-to-face visits. There is the possibility that one may be involved more than another. Though we have given this possible situation much consideration, there isn’t much we can do about it except try to explain it at a level that is age appropriate.